I saw a video long back in which several people were asked. “What is the most difficult job in the whole world?” While the answers ranged from doctors to teachers to engineers to astronauts, the real answer was that of a farmer. Yes! Farmer’ The crux of the matter was that if there was no food producing community doing their job so diligently, there would be no civilised life at all.
Similarly, if I were to ask you, “what is the gravest problem in the world?” The answer could again have a vast range right from troubled relationships to a bad job environment to lack of opportunity to illiteracy to several hazardous diseases and so the list would go on. But if I had to tell you that all of these can be resolved to a great extent by actually overcoming one simple tiny looking problem which is – “Self Pity”.
Across the globe, a majority of people have been deeply indulging in ‘self pity’ day-in and day-out without even realising the serious and long lasting impact it causes on their minds, resulting further into an added list of new troubles. Now if I had to explain to you how this so called ‘self pity’ works and how it slowly spreads into one’s mind and then into the surrounding and then the community, you would be surprised at its mass destruction. Here I take this random example of a ‘bad work environment’.
The chairman of a company, upset with a new problem at work, bashes up his manager and the manager in turn ruins the day for his assistant. This Mr. Assistant then catches up with friends over a drink and gets drunk telling them his sad story at work. He then goes home and messes up with his wife and kids and they in turn hate him for being this way. Now if you notice, all of this wasn’t really needed. All that was required to be done was solving of the little problems at work with some calmness and level-headed thinking. And this could have been done by absolutely anyone who chose to break this chain of downward spiral of self pity. Wouldn’t’ things be totally different if instead of asking, ”why me?” they had said “let me”.
If we can decide and get rid of the constant ‘self pity’ towards only one problem of our lives each day – no matter how tiny it may be; and start making positive changes to improve the situation therein, you will actually have solved 7 problems of yours over a weeks time. Incidentally, you will have solved an average of 25 problems in a month (considering you may ponder on the same problem for more than a day, at times) and this would result in solving about 300 problems in a year. Now, that’s a huge number. And if I have to really sit back and calculate or rather list down the number of problems that one has in his/her life, the count is certainly much lesser.
So all it would take is just a few months of a diligent effort to stop practicing ‘self pity’ and start solving a particular problem with the utmost positive attitude. This would not only make you a happier human being but also create a surrounding effect towards making a happy home, a happy locality, a happy corporation and so on. Problems aren't really as big as they are made to appear, if and only if one chooses to think rationally towards solving them rather than indulging in self pity.
